People say that I’m picky when it comes to who I date. That would explain why I spend so much time being single. I must say that I don’t completely agree with being picky. I just have standards. I have been in relationships where I settled because I hadn’t met anyone that could meet my standards. As I have gotten older, I refuse to settle. There are some things that I just won’t compromise on.
One thing that I refuse to compromise on is my God. I am very open about my faith. My spirituality means more to me than anything. If the guy that I’m dating can’t meet me on a spiritual level, it would never really work. I need a guy who can pray me out of a situation. If something is going on and my faith is lacking, I need him to uplift me in scripture and in prayer. I can’t deal with both of us folding under pressure. At the same time I want to be able to lift him up as well. Encouraging him to continue to follow God’s path and everything else will fall into place.
Another thing that I can’t compromise on is family. I love my family so much. After losing my dad, my mom and sister became my everything. I have a new niece. She’s all sorts of awesome. They mean the world to me and I want to be able to share that with whomever I’m dating. I would also love to meet his family. There is something about getting to know the people who helped mold him into the man that he is.
Ambition is another thing. There has to be some sort of goals that are in place. I’m full of all sorts of dreams and goals. I can’t be in a relationship with someone who is stagnant. There is always room for growth. Intellectually, I want to be able to connect with him. I want to be able to share my dreams with him. His excitement would make me all the more joyous. I love to share my visions with people, especially when I see them right in front of me.
He also has to be my friend. I should be able to talk to him about any and everything. Something amazing happens when you can be best friends with your mate. It helps you to understand them on a completely different level.
All of these things could be difficult for some, but others not so much. However, they are important to me. So the moral of this story is: No more settling for anything less than I need. I’m sure that guy will come around soon enough.